85 Broad St, New York, NY 10004 978-238-8378

Evolving my style into my late thirties

L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling

I’ve been meaning to write this post for a very long time – and as April marks the beginning of my birthday month with this birthday being the last one in my 30’s (eek!), I wanted to share something that’s very personal to my own style – and maybe something that many of you can relate to, that hopefully helps some of you going through a similar experience.

I often help my clients through life transitions as it is typically a time of change that initiates a style refresh – be that motherhood, divorce, retirement, change of job, promotion, etc. Whenever there is a shift in our lives, we’re often looking for ways outside of ourselves to improve and evolve – and while style is very much an outward phenomena, it is also a deeper reflection of our inner state – so it’s a great way to bring what’s inside to the outside, so to speak – and to align the two so that our confidence is elevated. I love helping my clients through these metamorphoses of sorts – as I think their wardrobes can become a source of happiness, clarity and joy for them after we work together.

I think style development is such an important aspect of our image and how we put ourselves together as it helps us understand how to express ourselves through our style signature – in the most authentic way possible. So all that said, I wanted to share how my own style has changed and evolved over the course of the last 4 years – and how I’m transitioning it into my late 30’s as I get closer to Dina 4.0.

I would say that my biggest shift happened right after I had my son 3 years ago. Before pregnancy, I was always very confident in my style, and in understanding what I love and gravitate towards. I knew I loved color, print, certain types of silhouettes that fit me – like A-Line and Fit-n-Flare. My closet was filled with pieces from Anthropologie, Alice & Olivia, Rebecca Taylor and Tory Burch.

After I had my son, and returned back to my pre-pregnancy shape (with certain changes, of course), I started to find some of the clothing I had a bit overwhelming, like there were patterns and colors I didn’t prefer any more, some things no longer fit the same (which most moms can relate to) and I just craved something simpler, cleaner and less eccentric. I really felt like my existing wardrobe no longer served me or represented me, and had a deep need to purge and rebuild.

As with anything in life, nothing happened overnight – so I took the time to think through what no longer worked, and separate the pieces that didn’t work because of practical reasons (size, fit, etc.) from the ones that I just no longer gravitated towards. I put up a lot of my clothing on for sale on Poshmark, and donated a huge pile. I felt lighter and clearer. Then I started to rebuild.

I felt that the best way to start fresh was with neutrals and basics. I have to admit – I’m not a neutrals girl; I barely have any black in my wardrobe and typically love a pattern over a solid. But it felt right to invest in some gray and navy, white and brown – to make my outfits feel lighter and more refined. I craved simplicity and elegance with just a touch of creativity (a total turnaround from my mostly creative and fun wardrobe before). I attribute a lot of it to the “colorful” and intense nature my life had at the moment – juggling being a new mother, running a business, and everything else in between.

Once I built up a solid wardrobe of neutrals (pun intended), I started to add color back, but in more refined tones. I still loved all my shoes and accessories – so they provided the necessary statement details to create interesting looks. For my wardrobe refresh, I found myself choosing a lot of pieces from Sezane as I felt that they represented the French feminine aesthetic that I really love – with understated, chic and effortless looks.

When I knew I was ready, I began to add patterns back into my wardrobe – but seeking out new brands that worked to elevate my style – like Veronica Beard, L’Agence. Ulla Johnson, Phillip Lim, and Zimmermann. I even fell in love with a few Loveshackfancy pieces that are more on the Bohemian side as they brought out a little grown-up feminine whimsy in my wardrobe, and I loved it!

I feel that this shift came at a great time for me – as I’m now nearing my late thirties and feel like the style transformation has been mostly completed. I think the need to look age-appropriate while still staying authentic and current is one of the most sought-after feelings that my clients express, and entering one’s 40’s is typically the time when it begins to happen. I believe that each of us has their own timeline for change and evolvement (for some it might happen in their 20’s, 30’s, 50’s – or not at all) – but I hope that the experience I shared above can be a useful approach to giving yourself the room and grace to go through the necessary steps.

On that note, I’m sharing an outfit that really feels like “me” now – it combines creative touches with an overall feminine & chic aesthetic. It makes me feel confident, put-together, and won’t age and “time-out” with the passing of years.

The exact ingredients of this outfit formula are:

  1. The Velvet Blazer I fell in love with this L’Agence Kenzie Velvet Double-Breasted Blazer back in December, and featured it in my Holiday Looks IGTV. I think the luxurious color and fabric make it a very elevated wardrobe piece that helps add refinement and a feeling of dramatic elegance to my looks.
  2. The 70’s Stovepipe High-Waisted Jeans. As i’m sure you guys have heard, Skinny Jeans are voted out by Gen-Z 🙂 All jokes aside, while I love the skinny silhouette, and will never give it up, I do like varying my denim cuts, and the straight-leg, high-waisted silhouette really appeals to me. I’ve recently discovered Re/Done Denim – which is actually reimagined from old Levi’s jeans – and I am obsessed! These Comfort-Stretch High-Rise Stove Pipe Jeans are one of the most comfortable pairs I own!
  3. A Pair of Neutral Booties. I’m a big fan of Coclico – as I’ve mentioned many times previously, and these Laeve Booties are so easy to wear with everything, I think they make a great wardrobe staple. I’ve found a few pairs in other colors on eBay – check them out in the carousel below.
  4. A Classic Bag. I styled this Polene Number One Mini in “Sand” in a previous blog post – I think the brand does an amazing job at creating timeless pieces that look chic yet don’t break the bank. I recently added a new bag from Polene to my collection, and can’t wait to show you how I’m styling it in my Spring looks – stay tuned for upcoming blog posts!
  5. A Lace Top. While you can’t really see the top in the outfit pictures, I chose to wear a Rebecca Taylor Lace-Trimmed Cap-Sleeve Top in black. It’s sold out online, but I found a few similar pieces – you can see them in the carousel below. I think the lace provides a nice juxtaposition to the velvet.
  6. A Timeless Scarf.  I’ve had this Hermes Brazil Scarf in my wardrobe forever, but actually hardly ever wear it – so I’m making a conscious effort to pull it out more as I think it adds such a fun touch to my outfits! I found a few of them from eBay and curated a few other favorites – check them out!

I hope this inspires you to try out a similar outfit this Season, or bookmark it for the next Seasonal transition! As always, please feel free to share the outfits you create via Instagram, using hashtag #ModnitsaOutfit in your posts, and I’ll be sure repost them on my stories!

xo,

 
Dina - Image Consultant, Wardrobe Editor, Personal Shopper of Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling
L'Agence Blazer Rachel Parcell Top Hermes Scarf ReDone Jeans Polene Bag Look by Modnitsa Styling

Photography by Leslie Moncada

No Comments
Leave a Comment: